WHAT IS WORK-LIFE BALANCE & WHERE CAN I GET SOME?
I started working at the age of 13 – I worked in retail & loved every minute of it, but I literally haven’t stopped since then. I started my first business when I was 17, ended up dropping out of college to build it and wound up creating something different and bigger. That said, I don’t get a lot of downtime and in the perfect world of, ‘drink 8 glasses of water a day, workout, meditate, have friends, get married by 30’ I oftentimes fall short…like really short.
Some days I’m on top of the world and know that I’m truly doing my best and other days I feel guilty that I haven’t eaten breakfast by 2pm and don’t text my friends enough. So much is expected of us regardless of what career path we’re on or how many hours a day we work, it can get overwhelming. So what is the perfect balance between being all-consumed by work and maintaining a life outside of it? I don’t know if there is even an answer to that, but here are a few things that at least help me feel like I’m a human during my busiest and most overwhelming days.
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR ‘TRAVEL TIME’
I don’t work on planes, trains, or in automobiles, mostly because the WiFi sucks, but also because I consider any time that I’m in transit to be ‘me time’. Traveling/commuting is hard enough as it is, so do yourself a favor and read the book you’ve heard great things about, watch the movie you forgot to see when it came out (in 2016), listen to the whole Post Malone album (worth it) or a podcast. Do whatever you want…other than check your emails.
SCHEDULE WORKOUTS AND PAY FOR THEM BEFOREHAND
At first, I thought it was obnoxious that SoulCycle charged me before I had even committed to a class but now, I’m so grateful that they do and I think they’re onto something brilliant. Paying for workout classes before you schedule them keeps you accountable. You don’t want to throw away the $15-35 dollars, so you get your ass up and go. *I also love scheduling classes on the MINDBODY app*
GET A CHAIR MASSAGE
This sounds ridiculous, but it’s been a total game-changer for me. You can get a chair massage at almost any nail salon and you can choose how long you want to be in the chair for. You don’t have to get naked and greased up in the middle of your day and you still get the benefits of a massage: tension relief, relaxation, and increased serotonin levels (a.k.a. a happier you). Plus, most places only charge $15-20…run, don’t walk.
MAKE THIS YOUR NEW MANTRA: ‘YOU CAN HAVE EVERYTHING, JUST NOT ALL AT ONCE’
Again, sounds simple but once I started repeating this to myself, it made it seem like I wasn’t necessarily missing out on anything, I was just choosing more of one thing over another. You can’t do everything at once i.e. have a blossoming career, a perfect relationship, a great group of consistent friends, a non-chipped pedicure…but you can choose what you want to have at any given time.
It is inevitable that something has got to give, but you’re in control of what gives. Get it? If you’re hyper-focused on skyrocketing your career, you might be getting a little less sleep because you’re up late working (not forever, just for now). The same goes for just about everything else; if you want a six pack, you’re probably not spending as much time at the bar with your friends as you are at the gym. The beauty of this though, is that once you have your six pack, you start spending more time with your friends because you’ve got things a little more under control in the gym. Life ebbs and flows, do yourself a favor and move with it. Go ahead, say it with me, “I can have everything, just not all at once”, feels kind of good, right?
Love You, Mean It,